That question evokes the old “How long is a piece of string?” response.
Essentially a lot of us are extremely guilty of procrastinating. It’s easy to make an excuse, so why don’t we just do that? Well, results. If you want them, you shouldn’t waste the little time you have. Those that actually succeed and get what they want in life don’t sit on their arses and hope, they move forward and try to implement their ideas into their lives.
They say that it takes 21 days to form a habit, and 16 repetitions of something verbally to commit it to memory (of course these will both vary depending on your background). But all you really need to do is decide.
Maybe your will-power isn’t that strong… Many people suffer from that. But there’s only one person that can be responsible for that change, and that’s you, the individual.
The best way I’ve found to commit to myself, is to write it down clearly, in a bold form and place it somewhere in which it can’t be ignored, neither by myself nor those close. If it’s correctly and clearly placed before you, then you have to acknowledge it. You’re forced to understand that you’re dealing with it, or not paying attention, and as a result, hopefully if you’re lacking in will power, it will encourage a change.
Eventually, the aim is to throw away the reminder and just control yourself and your actions upon your own whims.
But just decide, it truly is that easy. Make your powerful mind up, and stick to it.
“How To Feel Good” The most complicated things made easy… Suggestion – music?
If you’re unfortunate enough to be a member of the human race, then every now and again you’ll suffer from bouts of depression or feeling low. Maybe this applies to other species too, but I have no firsthand experience being anything but a human male.
A valuable, simple tip for helping someone feeling down perk up is music. Yup, we’ve all heard that cliche, listen to some good music and it’ll make your spirits lift. But I’m not referring to what your average person defines as “good” music. I’m referring to songs that make you smile and feel happy, maybe a song from your past that you used to sing all the time, maybe it’s something you’ve been listening to recently, whatever it is, indulge.
Sing it as loud as you can, and dance away if you choose.
Depending on your comfort level, do it in private or in public, whatever makes you happy. Essentially you need to feel good, and as long as you’re not hurting anyone else, who cares what you do?
My personal pick, with my lowered mood at the moment was Tony Toni Tone’s “Let’s Get Down” featuring DJ Quik. It brought me back to my mid-teens, sitting in front of “The Box” music channel and loving the sounds and setup of that video.
Life is a lot more complicated than we can ever conceive, but in some aspects, it’s also a lot simpler than we understand.
Sadly, negative experiences happen. Relationships sour or end, people move away or pass away and debts accrue. The truth is though, behind it all is you and your own perspective. When tragedies or problems occur, the main thing that any individual needs to realize is that you’re able to handle the situation and/or consequences by taking control of your mind and your emotions. It seems harder than it is, and sometimes the case is just that – the mind fails to control feelings. However, what you need to remain aware of is that whatever the situation you’re in, it will pass.
For example, if you’re waiting on a significant other to change or return a phone call or whatever (even in this day and age of cell phones and instant messaging, we can get too busy to get to a phone) you can experience pain and upset, feelings of being ignored or less valued. What you need to understand is how to control that, how to get your rational mind to tell yourself in a logical manner that, “Look, yes what you want isn’t happening. But is it the end of the world?” “Are there reasons why he/she isn’t getting back to me immediately?” Nine times out of ten, the issue in your head is being blown out of proportion and all you need to do is take a deep breath and do something other than dwell.
These sorts of situations translate into a great number of aspects of life and can be applied. Take for example the fact that maybe you need to pay a bill but don’t have the cash, what do you do? Do you sit and dwell about not having the necessary funds and then simply avoid it and allow the problem to escalate? Or do you find a way. There’s always a way, and there’s always a more productive twist on a negative situation.
Life is no dress rehearsal. This should be everyone’s motto. Don’t put anything off, because none of us know what tomorrow does or does not have to offer.